You want to make a difference.
We want to support you.
You know that parenthood can be a challenging journey at times.
Maybe you found this out the hard way for yourself.
And yet they say nothing can prepare parents for parenthood, right?
SO. NOT. TRUE!
You can become a Parenthood Tour Guide.
Birth professionals: do you ever feel like all your work is for one day only? Would you like help to prepare parents for what lies ahead too? But where do you start? Where do you finish? How do you even begin to tell parents that life will never, ever be the same again?
Birth and Postpartum Doulas: do you want resources in your toolbox, support and step by step instructions for those dreaded and difficult conversations (like about circumcision, vaccination or co-sleeping) that you know parents need to have?
Psychologists and Therapists: do you ever feel like you could have done so much more for your clients - if only you'd gotten to them sooner? What if you had a map to help them look back and move forward together?
LMFT's, Counselors, Social Workers and Coaches: do you know couples who love each other, but just can't agree on a particular parenting issue and it's tearing them apart? What if there was a powerful way to help parents - no matter what stage of parenthood they're in now - to move forward together and be stronger as a family?
And, in any professional role:
Do you ever feel like parents need more, but you're not exactly sure what "more" is?
What if there was something or someone to guide you to guide them?
What if you knew about a powerful process that moves parents through the normal changes and challenges of parenthood in ways that empower them as individuals and as a couple?
Would you like easy and beautiful ways to work with parents so they can find support, support their partner and grow closer as a family through the parenthood journey, instead of just getting through it, (or far worse, what happens for too many couples – eventually falling apart)?
What do all these diverse roles have in common? If you work with expecting or new parents, in any professional role:
You can discover the stages of early parenthood.
You can prepare parents for each stage.
You can help lost parents to find their way.
You can support parents to grow their love as they go.
Brace yourself, because here's the big problem: parents need somebody to guide them. High rates of stress, anxiety, depression and new relationship issues that start during pregnancy are bringing families undone.
If you work with expecting, new or even not so new parents - in any professional role, and especially in those above - you can help to prevent this.
Find out more in the video below.
The good news: there's ways to support parents to cope.
The great news: there's ways to support families to thrive.
Be part of the solution.
Be the change parents need.
Become a Parenthood Tour Guide!
GET inspiration, resources and support, with evidence-based information and easy-to-use tools to do this highly satisfying work with clients.
GIVE parents guidance to support them to cope with the stresses, changes and challenges of parenthood, grow stronger as a couple and lay a solid foundation for their whole family.
GAIN skills to facilitate this work in your own way with clients and be ahead of the curve in your profession. Changes are coming, you can be ahead of them!
Welcome to Becoming Us:
a ground-breaking guide to parenthood
AND now a comprehensive professional training for you to bring the tools to life.
"This is a gigantic missing piece of the puzzle. Becoming Us is a game-changer for parents and professionals. "
Sally Placksin, Author of Mothering the New Mother, NYC.
"This training has given me such a fresh perspective, renewed energy and enthusiasm. I now have a deeper, richer knowledge of what the adjustment to parenthood truly is, what my role can be and offer genuine and helpful support to the parents I work with."
Ariadne Brill, Parent Educator and Coach, Switzerland
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We'd love you to join us!
You can have all this:
You will have a groundbreaking relationship change management model that supports couples to work with the normal changes of parenthood, instead of against them.
You'll have a better understanding of mental health issues and relationship problems that are unique to parenthood.
You'll know how to reduce the risks and support both parents to cope.
You'll see the signs for parents who need more support.
You will be ahead of the curve Part I. You'll be taking a "prevention" approach to new parenthood, which is according to new international professional guidelines.
You will be ahead of the curve Part II. A father/partner inclusive, family centered approach to support the mental health of BOTH partners is becoming "best practice".
You will be ahead of the curve Part III. New guidelines are asking birth and other perinatal professionals to provide mental health education and referrals. You'll know when to refer, who to refer to and the best way to do it. You will be a bridge to more support.
You'll be supported to guide or refer parents in even the most challenging of situations.
You'll know ways to support wider relationships with parents' family, friends and community to help families cope and thrive.
You can have the satisfaction of knowing that even if you’re working only with one parent, you’re doing it a way that supports their whole family.
AND THAT'S NOT ALL!
You can have a clear trail map for all this. One that gives you the stages of the parenthood journey, the preventative steps to steer around the risks in each stage, and the resources to get parents over the bumps and back on track to growing the family they dream about. Wiser. Stronger. Together.
All this is here for you!
Your work matters.
Discover the huge difference you can make.
The Journey to Becoming Us:
Hi there, I'm Elly, perinatal relationship expert, author and founder of Becoming Us. Over 20 years ago as a Relationship Counselor and a new mother at the same time, I was discovering that while people say the first year of marriage is hard, what they don't tell you is that the first few year or so of parenthood is even harder.
I was counselling couple after couple who were struggling with the same issues as my husband and I: so in love before our baby’s birth and so in love with our baby afterwards...so wondering why the heck weren’t we more in love with each other too?!
So I began to research.
And was shocked to discover the high rates of anxiety and depression and relationship concerns during the perinatal period.
Now, preparing and supporting parents for the gritty parts of parenthood - so they can enjoy the joys even more - is my passion and our Becoming Us mission.
Because here's what I know, both personally and professionally: parenthood IS a turning point. We can support parents to turn to each other. We can give them the knowledge and skills to face the normal and common changes of parenthood head on, hand-in-hand.
Couples can grow closer through the challenges, instead of growing apart. Become a true team. Their new, stronger, deeper version of us.
This is beautiful work to do, at any stage of parenthood, and I hope you'll consider joining us to do it!
"For over 15 years as a Childbirth and Parenting Educator I have heard couples share their challenges. Changes to their relationship are the biggest, and yet the most helpful in navigating all the others: if the couple is working well together everything else can get sorted.
Until now, I haven't had the knowledge of a way to help couples through this. Evidence-based, thought provoking and most importantly practical, this training has given my work so much more depth and power to make a difference for new families."
Tracey Anderson Askew, Founder, Calmbirth Canberra, Australia.
Becoming Us is designed for you if you're a:
Birth Professional: Childbirth Educator, Midwife, Birth or Postpartum Doula or OB/GYN.
Therapy or Mental Health Professional: Social Worker, LMFT, Psychologist, Psychotherapist or Counselor.
Educational Professional: Lactation Consultant, Sleep Consultant, Pre-School Teacher, Life or Relationship Coach.
Health or Natural Therapy Professional: Pediatrician, Chiropractor, Osteopath, Physiotherapist, Yoga Teacher or Massage Therapist.
Community Professional: Support Group Facilitator, Church Leader or Carer.
You can use Becoming Us:
- As a prevention during pre-conception or pregnancy to prepare couples for all stages of their adventure
- As an early intervention to support parents during their first few years of family
- To guide parents of older children to make sense of the journey so far and have steps and strategies to continue moving forward together
- With parents expecting a second or subsequent baby to repair their relationship and create opportunities for "do overs"
You can use Becoming Us with individuals, couples and/or groups of parents - AND in all types of families (biological, step families, adopting etc.).
Becoming Us is especially useful for couples who are expecting their first baby to:
- Have a better birth experience, including reduced risk for a traumatic birth
- Adjust more quickly in the postpartum period
- Be less likely to suffer from Perinatal Mental Health issues like anxiety or depression
- Have higher self-esteem and more confidence as a parent
- Be happier with their partner and more able to create a loving, supportive co-parenting relationship
We believe all families deserve this beginning!!!
"I'm really enjoying the clarity of this course. It's given me the steps needed for smooth navigation through the monumental shifts and resetting that's thrown upon parents.
There's nothing more important to me than a loving foundation for children. The training helps me share important perspectives for growing families and how to move through challenges into a beautiful life."
Brett Darnesh, Parenting and Relationship Coach,
Coffs Harbour, Australia
How you can become the change you want to see for parents:
Discover the transformational Becoming Us™ approach and become a pioneer at the forefront of working in a whole-family way with parents. Becoming Us is compatible with any childbirth preparation or parenting program (and endorsed by many of them!).
Get the knowledge, skills and resources to fill a black hole that currently exists in most couple's prenatal preparation and postpartum support. Parents need professionals to bridge this gap for them!
Find inspiration and ideas to expand your services with our targeted interventions.
Become more confident in supporting fathers, same-sex partners and couples through the ‘before’ and ‘after’ of becoming parents, offering comprehensive, holistic support for the you care for.
Be in a position to help reduce risks for perinatal anxiety, depression, birth trauma and relationship breakdown. That's huge!
Learn from other birth, health, therapy and parenthood colleagues and connect with other professionals in your neighborhood to explore collaborative or cross-referral opportunities.
Discover landmark studies and keep abreast of current research so you know exactly how you are making a difference!
Here's what you'll learn:
Level I: Tilling the Soil and Planting the Seeds
You'll discover what the 'transition into parenthood' really means for parents and how to grow their love through all of it.
In Level I, you'll become a Professional Seed Planter.
Level II: 8 Stages of the Parenthood Adventure
Parenthood might be an adventure into the unknown, but you'll have a clear path with bridges over the rivers and a best way through the mountains.
In Level II, you'll become a Parenthood Tour Guide.
Level III: Extra Support for the Hard Stuff
Sometimes parenthood is more like a survival mission than a walk in the park. You'll discover the biggest challenges for parents and how to guide parents through them.
In Level III, you'll become a Village Elder.
What do you get when you enroll?
You'll get never-ending access to:
- Handouts and resources to use from Day 1 with your clients.
- Webinar sessions delivered weekly to your inbox. Watch weekly, take a break or binge watch, it's up to you!
- Ongoing access to our private online group so you can share your challenges and find support.
- Bi-monthly live Q&A and discussion video conferencing calls so you can get to know your local and international colleagues.
"At first my work was greatly focused on mom, but now I'm able to work with both parents. After many solo sessions with one of my clients, her husband joined her. She was worried he wouldn't want to participate, but I was able to answer his questions and provide support to both of them. He really appreciated it. We actually ran out of time, so they made another appointment!"
Enjonae Anderson, Licensed Professional Counselor,
High Point, North Carolina
"One of THE most empowering experiences I've had in my many years of continuing education and professional development."
Erika Stroh, Parenting Coach, Long Island, NY.
And that's not all!!! After course completion you can apply for Certification to:
- Facilitate our groundbreaking Becoming Us Programs with parents in your community.
- Get marketing and class facilitation mentoring.
- Order discount copies (50% off!) the award-winning book Becoming Us, which you can then on-sell to your clients (great if you run groups!)
- Access our private online community of Village Elders for ongoing inspiration, ideas and support.
- Have a marketing resource kit.
- And a badge for your website.
- Be listed in our world-wide Facilitator directory.
Please note: Facilitator Certification is an additional cost. For more information please see below.
"I originally signed up for the training because I know expectant parents are hungry for information that goes beyond "getting the baby out" and I found the training incredibly valuable for this. Now that I'm running the Becoming Us classes for parents I get to see even more how my knowledge is making a difference. I ran into one momma recently, a few months after they'd done my class. When I asked how she and her husband were doing she teared up and said "Really, really good...you have no idea how much you changed our lives!" I love doing this work!"
Barb Buckner Suarez, Childbirth Educator, Portland, Oregon
"I just finished a session with parents of a two-week-old baby. There were tears of relief and they both asked to return next week. Thank you for this wonderful training !"
Carol Peat, Counselor, Lactation Educator and Doula, London, Ontario, Canada
"Can you say a training is beautiful? Because this training is beautiful!"
Diane Speier PhD., Birth Professional and Psychotherapist, Manchester, UK
Becoming Us Founder and Parenthood Pioneer
Meet your Guide
Perinatal relationship expert Elly Taylor has combined her knowledge of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy with decades of research, developmental psychology theory and some hard-earned personal wisdom to create Becoming Us, a new approach to parenthood that supports mothers, fathers and partners in every stage of their family life-cycle.
Elly presents at national and international conferences and Becoming Us has been embraced by leading organisations including, COPE, PSI, ICEA, CAPPA and Lamaze. Elly has served on advisory panels for Monash University, Newcastle University, The Australian Catholic University and is on the advisory board for the International Forum for Wellbeing in Pregnancy. She has been a columnist for Practical Parenting magazine, Resident Counsellor for Daily Life website and is a Perinatal Mental Health advocate.
Elly lives in Sydney with her fire-fighter husband, their three children and a bunch of pets. Her favourite things (family aside) are teaching, travelling and meeting with professionals who do this incredibly meaningful, sometimes challenging, and yet truly beautiful "Becoming Us" work.
We hope you'll join us!
PLEASE NOTE: This course has been valued at over three times the price below and the benefits of this course for parents are priceless. However, we want anyone who works with expecting or new parents and cares enough to do this work to have this important information, so we have kept the price of your investment way down. Please be aware that prices are in U.S. Dollars.
A FINAL CONSIDERATION: We will do some deep dives in this training. While it’s not required, you will be invited to reflect on your own parenthood journey, as both you and your clients will benefit from this. If you're going through a difficult time, we want you to prioritize your own self-care, and we encourage you to do this important training at a later time.