What might an award winning, evidence-based approach to the parenthood adventure mean for you?
And for your clients?
ALL. THE. DIFFERENCE.
Have you seen couples become lost, struggle and sometimes go under after the arrival of their precious new baby?
Are you aware of the large number of new mothers and fathers who suffer for years from ongoing stress, relationship problems or Perinatal Mental Health issues?
Would you like a clear trail map for working with the families in your care? One that can make a world of difference for them?
Welcome to Becoming Us™ - A groundbreaking pathway through parenthood.
GET the inspiration, direction and support to work holistically, with evidence-based information, resources and easy-to-use tools that support your clients' mental, emotional and relationship wellbeing. Plan for what's probable in each stage of the parenthood adventure and discover what's possible for them!
GIVE your clients guidance that makes them stronger together than ever, builds a solid foundation for their family - and puts YOU ahead of the curve as a professional!
GAIN certification to facilitate this work with individual clients or couples, or bring the innovative Becoming Us Parents Programs to groups in your community.
For over 15 years as a Childbirth and Parenting Educator I have heard couples share their challenges. Changes to their relationship are the biggest, and yet the most helpful in navigating all the others: if the couple is working well together everything else can get sorted.
Until now, I haven't had the knowledge of a way to help couples through this. Evidence-based, thought provoking and most importantly practical, this training has given my work so much more depth and power to make a difference for new families.
Tracey Anderson Askew, Founder, Calmbirth Canberra, Australia.
At a time when couples express anxiety about facing the unknowns, including how their relationship with each other will change, I can't think of a more positive message to give them than this. It's a gigantic missing piece of the big picture and this training also adds depth and dimension to what we already talk about. Becoming Us is a game-changer for parents and professionals.
Sally Placksin, Author of Mothering the New Mother, New York City.
So what is Becoming Us™?
Based on over 15 years of research and clinical experience, the Becoming Us™ Relationship-Developmental approach to parenthood describes the stages mothers, fathers and partners go through, the major challenges in each stage and the steps to avoid, overcome or manage them.
The Becoming Us model can be used:
- As a prevention approach during pre-conception or pregnancy to prepare couples for all stages of their adventure
- As an early intervention to support parents during their first few years of family
- To guide parents of older children to make sense of the journey so far and have steps and strategies to continue moving forward together
- With parents expecting a second or subsequent baby to repair relationships and have opportunities for "do overs"
Becoming Us can be used with individuals, couples and groups of parents - and in all types of families (biological, step families, adopting etc.).
Becoming Us is especially useful for couples who are expecting their first baby. According to research, parents who are prepared with the right information for parenthood:
- Have a better birth experience, including reduced risk for a traumatic birth
- Adjust more quickly in the postpartum period
- Are less likely to suffer from Perinatal Mental Health issues like anxiety or depression
- Have higher self-esteem and more confidence as a parent
- Are happier with their partner and more able to create a loving, supportive co-parenting relationship
You'll understand what makes the difference between families just surviving - or thriving. Your clients will thank you for this!
Who is the Becoming Us Professional Development training for?
Becoming Us is designed for helping professionals who care for expecting, new (and not so new) parents, especially:
Birth Professionals: Childbirth Educators, Midwives, Birth or Postpartum Doulas or OB/GYNs.
Therapy and Mental Health Professionals: Social Workers, LMFTs, Psychologists, Psychotherapists or Counsellors.
Educational Professionals: Lactation Consultants, Sleep Consultants, Pre-School Teachers, Life or Relationship Coaches.
Health or Natural Therapies Professionals: Pediatricians, Chiropractors, Osteopaths, Physiotherapists, Yoga Teachers or Massage Therapists.
Community Professionals: Support Group Facilitators, Church Leaders or Carers.
The Stories Behind Becoming Us:
Hi, I'm Elly Taylor, founder of Becoming Us. As a Relationship Counsellor and a new mother at the same time, I discovered something I didn't want to know: that while people say the first year of marriage is hard, what they don't tell you is that the first year of parenthood is even harder.
In fact, I was overwhelmed by the statistics. A whopping 92% of parents report increased conflict with their partner in their first year of family and 67% a decline in relationship satisfaction in their first three. Relationship problems are one of the leading causes of Perinatal Mood Disorders – suffered by 1 in 3 mothers and 1 in 6 dads. A traumatic birth further increases the risk.
I was counselling couple after couple who were struggling with the same issues as my husband and I: so in love before our baby’s birth and so in love with our baby afterwards...
...and all the time wondering what the heck was going wrong. Why weren’t we more in love with each other too?!
I began to research.
I discovered there's a huge gap between the ‘before’ and ‘after’ of parenthood. A gap that can mean the difference between a couple's dream for their family and the reality of it. And one that to many parents are falling in to.
Clearly, something had to change and I was on a mission.
Over the next 15 years, as I was able to work things through in my own relationship and support my clients to do the same -confusion and frustration finally turned into hope:
We were finding our way.
Now hope has turned into a burning desire to make a difference for our next generation of parents.
Parenthood is a turning point: we can support parents to turn to each other. We can give them the knowledge and skills to face their challenges head on, hand-in-hand. So they can grow closer through parenthood, instead of growing apart. Become a true team. As it should be.
Imagine their story.
Why Join Becoming Us?
Discover the transformational Becoming Us™ approach and be a pioneer at the forefront of working with parents. Becoming Us is compatible with any childbirth preparation or parenting program (and endorsed by many of them).
Get the knowledge, skills and resources to fill a black hole that currently exists in most couple's prenatal preparation, postpartum support and their first few years of family. Parents need professionals to bridge this gap for them!
Find inspiration and ideas to expand your services with our targeted interventions.
Be more confident to support fathers, same-sex partners and couples through the ‘before’ and ‘after’ of becoming parents, offering comprehensive, holistic support for the families in your care.
Be in a position to help reduce risks for perinatal anxiety, depression, birth trauma and relationship breakdown. That's huge.
Learn from other birth, health, therapy and parenthood colleagues and connect with other professionals in your neighbourhood to explore collaborative or cross-referral opportunities.
Discover landmark studies and keep abreast of current research so you know exactly how you are making a difference!
This training has given me such a fresh perspective, renewed energy and enthusiasm to offer genuine and helpful support to the new parents I work with. I now have a deeper, richer knowledge of what the adjustment to parenthood truly is and what my role can be.
Ariadne Brill, Parent Educator and Coach, Positive Parenting Connection, Switzerland
I''m really enjoying the clarity of this course. It's given me the steps needed for smooth navigation through the monumental shifts and resetting that's thrown upon parents.
There's nothing more important to me than a loving foundation for children. The training helps me articulate important perspectives for growing families and how to move through challenges into a beautiful life.
Brett Darnesh, Certified Aware Parenting and Relationship Coach,
Loving Families, Coffs Harbour, Australia
What do I get when I enrol?
You'll get never-ending access to all three levels of our Becoming Us Professional Development training, including:
- 14 webinar sessions delivered weekly to your inbox. Each session is an hour to a hour and a half of videos, short reading and reflection questions. Watch weekly, take a break or binge watch, it's up to you.
- Continuing Professional Development Points (26 in total).
- Handouts and resources to use immediately with your clients.
- Live Q&A and discussion video conferencing calls so you can get to know your local and international colleagues.
- Access to our private online group so you can network and collaborate.
After course completion you'll receive a certificate with your CPD points and the option to apply for Certification to:
- Facilitate our groundbreaking new Becoming Us™ Before Baby and/or Becoming Us™ After Baby Programs with families in your community.
- Pilot our new Becoming Us Reading Groups exclusively for mothers.
- Order discount copies (50% off!) the award-winning book Becoming Us, 8 Steps To Grow a Family That Thrives which you can then on-sell to your clients (great if you run groups!)
- Access our private online community of Village Elders for inspiration, ideas and support for your work.
- Get individual mentoring if you need it along the way.
- Access a growing library of marketing resources.
- Have a badge for your website.
- Be listed in our world-wide Facilitator directory.
In the beginning my work was greatly focused on mom, but now I'm able to work with both mom and partner together.
After many solo sessions with one of my moms-to-be, her husband joined her. She was so worried he wouldn't want to participate, but he really appreciated the opportunity. He had a lot of questions and I was able to provide support to both of them. We actually ran out of time so they made another appointment!
Enjonae Anderson, Licensed Professional Counselor,
Mended Hearts Counselling, High Point, North Carolina
One of the most empowering experiences I've had in my many years of continuing education and professional development.
Erika Stroh, Parenting from the Heart, Long Island, NY.
I just finished a session with parents of a two-week-old baby. There were tears as I normalized their experience and they both asked to return next week. Thank you for this wonderful training opportunity!
Carol Peat, Lactation Educator, Doula and Owner of Babies Naturally and Braveheart Parenting, London, Ontario, Canada
Can you say a training is beautiful? Because this training is beautiful!
Diane Speier PhD., Birth Professional and Psychotherapist, Manchester, UK
Meet your Guide
Around 20 years ago, Australian Relationship Counsellor Elly Taylor discovered a huge gap for parents: that while they tend to get plenty of support around how to give birth and look after a baby, mothers, fathers and partners don't get nearly enough on how to look after themselves - and each other - as they become parents, their new version of "us."
Combining psychology theory, her work in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, decades of research, and some hard-earned personal wisdom, Elly created Becoming Us, an 8 stage pathway into and through parenthood that supports the mental, emotional and relationship wellbeing of mothers, fathers and partners in every stage of their family life-cycle. Elly has presented her research at national and international conferences and Becoming Us has been embraced by leading organisations including, COPE, PSI, ICEA, CAPPA and Lamaze.
Elly has served on advisory panels for Monash University, Newcastle University, The Australian Catholic University and is on the advisory board for the International Forum for Wellbeing in Pregnancy. She has been a columnist for Practical Parenting magazine, Resident Counsellor for Daily Life website and is a Perinatal Mental Health advocate.
Elly lives in Sydney with her fire-fighter husband, their three children and a bunch of pets. Her favourite role (family aside) is working with professionals who do the vitally important, meaningful, sometimes challenging, and yet very beautiful "Becoming Us" work.
We hope you'll join us and fill the gap for our next generation of parents!