Do More of the Work You'll Love

Discover a relationship-based approach to parenthood - and potentially the most rewarding work you'll do.

Perinatal intimate partner relationship satisfaction and mental health are intertwined. According to research, relationship concerns are the single most significant risk factor for antenatal anxiety and a major contributor to depression in both mothers and fathers postnatally. Intimate partner relationships are also a protective factor: new parents satisfied with their relationship report higher self-esteem and closer bonding with their baby. The whole family benefits.
Perinatal relationship work is an emerging area of specialised care. Parenthood is a unique time, relatively early in a couple’s relationship, when parents are confronted with sensitive, complex and layered challenges. It is also a unique window of opportunity for prevention and early intervention in adult and infant mental health. Relationship-informed work is important to avoid inadvertently creating more stress for parents, provide meaningful context for their challenges, and support secure attachment.

In line with new recommendations for a “whole family” approach, Becoming Us Perinatal Relationships and Mental Health (PRaM) training provides care providers with foundations and frameworks for relationship-informed care for individuals, couples and groups. Participants learn practical skills to integrate best practice guidelines to support the mental, emotional and relational wellbeing of parents, partners and babies through pregnancy and the crucial first years of becoming a family.

NEW: October 2022 Online Intensive

Please book early. Spaces will be limited

Two self-paced sessions and one live zoom over 8 weeks from mid-October to mid-December. Dates and times are below.

This unique training includes:

  • Cutting Edge Education

    Emerging research and evidence-based approaches to fill gaps that currently exist in antenatal preparation and postnatal support.

  • User Friendly Resources

    A "map" for anticipatory guidance to steer parents around common risks, find their way and steps to keep them on track.

  • A Relationship Toolkit

    Handouts and resources to prepare and support individual parents, partners and/or families - even if you're short on time.

  • Father & Partner Inclusivity

    Build confidence in engaging fathers and partners and be able to address their hopes, concerns and needs, even if they're not in the room.

  • Whole Family Attachment

    Strengthen parents' relationship with themselves, their partner, their baby, grandparents, wider family, friends and community. Work with best-practice guidelines.

  • Insight and Perspective

    Use a relationship lens to discover opportunities to support parents, partners and babies, both in the short-term and well into a family's future.

  • Prevention and Early Intervention

    Help reduce risks and fallout related to perinatal trauma, PMH conditions, loss and grief and relationship crises including abuse, addictions and infidelity.

  • Personal and Professional Growth

    Opportunities to reflect on your own parenthood journey for further insight and healing. A degree of readiness is needed for this intensive training.

  • Connection

    A group of dedicated and passionate multi-disciplinary perinatal professionals. Find opportunities to build referral pathways and community in your area.

Partner support is often cited as the most important variable in avoiding perinatal mental health difficulties, and we are well aware of the intergenerational transmission of trauma, but rarely address this. 

We are missing what could be our best opportunity for prevention and early intervention in mental health for the whole family. 

Becoming Us provides a vital missing piece of the perinatal wellbeing puzzle that is too often overlooked and goes unaddressed. I recommend this practical, insightful and transformative professional training.

Professor Bryanne Barnett A.M.

The Becoming Us intensive is designed for:

  • Perinatal mental health or therapy professionals: perinatal psychiatrists, psychologists, psychotherapists and social workers.

  • Perinatal health care professionals who desire to work more holisically and/or build confidence working with fathers and partners.

  • Relationship counsellors, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapists, counsellors or coaches wanting to specialise in, or provide more guidance and support for, the perinatal period.

What you'll learn:

Level I - Perinatal Relationship Foundations:

  • Three main long-term relationship stages
  • Bonding and attachment (babies and adults)
  • Twelve transitions of parenthood
  • The benefits of relationship-informed work
  • Using neuroplasticity to plant prevention seeds
Level II - A Perinatal Relationship Framework:

  1. Preparing expectant parents for life as a new family
  2. Postnatal nesting, resting and whole family bonding
  3. Adjusting expectations of life, self, partner, baby and others
  4. Supporting self-care, partner care and baby care
  5. Understanding mixed emotions of the perinatal period
  6. Supporting self-esteem and new sense of identity
  7. Managing communication and conflict to bring couples closer
  8. Bonding couples through layers of intimacy
Level III - Extra Support for the Extra Hard Stuff:

  • Minimising risks for intimate partner abuse, addictions and infidelity
  • Growing through PMH issues, trauma, loss and grief
  • Reflecting on your own journey
  • Celebrating all that you bring to your important role

Included in the Intensive:

  • Eighteen online self-paced educational sessions.

  • Eight weekly small group live zoom discussion and Q&A sessions. Dates and times below.

  • Handouts and resources to use with individual parents, couples and/or groups.

  • Optional monthly peer support group zoom calls to meet international colleagues, share challenges and have community support.

  • Access to our private facebook group where we post new research to stay updated.

  • Forever access to it all.

October 2022 Dates and Times

Each week contains two self-paced sessions followed by a live zoom discussion and Q&A call.

  • Week 1 starts October 17
  • Week 2 starts October 24
  • Week 3 starts October 31
  • Week 4 starts November 7
  • Week 5 starts November 14
  • Break November 21-27
  • Week 6 starts November 28
  • Week 7 starts December 5
  • Week 8 starts December 12

Live calls are scheduled for Fridays at 2.00 pm Australian Eastern Daylight Time. Please check this time zone converter for your local date and time before committing.

Can you say a training is beautiful? Because this training is beautiful!

Diane Speier PhD., Birth Professional and Psychotherapist, Manchester, UK

Meet your Facilitators

Elly Taylor

Elly Taylor is a perinatal relationship expert, multi award-winning author and founder of Becoming Us. As a relationship counsellor, Elly began studying the transition into parenthood when she became aware of both the unique challenges and opportunities for parents and families at this time. Based on the stories of hundreds of mothers, fathers and parents and research in adult attachment, Elly created Becoming Us, a relationship-developmental approach to pregnancy and early parenthood.

Elly has served as a subject matter expert for Monash University, The Australian Catholic University, Newcastle University (SMS4DADS) and Columbia University research projects and has been invited to speak at conferences and events internationally.

Elly's passion is sharing the benefits of relationship-informed care for parents, families, providers and communities. She is excited to be working currently with NSW Health to implement Becoming Us courses in her local area, including in the two hospitals where her three children were born.

Carla Anderson

Carla Anderson is a clinical psychologist, working in private practice since 2005, with a special interest in working with families within the perinatal period. Carla’s passion for this began as a volunteer postnatal depression peer support worker, whilst completing her psychology degree and becoming a mother herself.

Carla has been involved in numerous perinatal projects, including grief counsellor and honorary national trainer with a focus on perinatal loss for Bonnie Babes Foundation, co-ordinating postnatal disorders support groups and training peer support volunteers, as well as providing training to professionals and parents on a range of perinatal topics. Recently, Carla co-collaborated with the Centre of Perinatal Psychology on a training program; "Bearing the Unbearable; Perinatal Loss” and was published in the Australian Psychologist Journal for her research on Pregnancy-related Anxiety.

Carla works from an attachment and relational framework and is passionate about providing early interventions and supports to reduce challenges experienced by families and so is excited to be co-facilitating the Becoming Us intensive training with Elly.

We hope you’ll join us to support our next generation of parents. This work has never been more needed than now!

Some final considerations

This intensive training is designed for personal and professional development. Participants will be invited to reflect on their own journey of parenthood. This intensive training is not suitable for individuals who are currently or recently experiencing relationship difficulties. Please see the enrol any time, self-paced training options as alternatives.

Please allow around 60 mins for each session. Please also be prepared to allow for reflection, processing, practice and integration time in between sessions eg. a Monday, Wednesday, Friday schedule is ideal.

PSI Members: The Becoming Us Intensive is approved by Postpartum Support International (PSI) as an alternative track for advanced training. Attendance at all live zoom sessions is mandatory for this. The Becoming Us self-paced training is approved for PSI PMH-C re-certification and CEUs.

Finally, please note prices are in US dollars. Please check your local currency conversion before committing. For organisational discounts and group enrollments, please email


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